Our memory is like a picture creating our own emotional realities
If you take a picture of a sunny day and happy people doing relaxing stuff and with the aid of a computer you change the cloud formation from blue to grey, you remove the sun, add in a few thunder clouds and torrential rain you will completely change your emotional response to that picture.
If you take a favourite film and a scene of someone happily carefree skipping through the woods and change the uplifting music to the theme from Jaws, you will completely change your emotional response to that film.
Just by changing a colour or a sound we can change how you emotionally react to something. And believe me if you watch Snow White with all the happy animals to the Jaws theme music you will really struggle to not have an anxious feeling everytime you watch that movie even if you’ve given it back its original sound track.
Why is this useful to know? Well as a therapist I can’t change a past event but can change how your mind perceives that event by adjusting the memory slightly. I would be changing the grey to brighter colours and the Jaws theme to something energising, up lifting, and fun.
By doing that I can help you change for ever your emotional memory of something. Making the memory much easier to live with or with a little more of a make-over, change it to memory that does not make you feel the need to push your anxious button.
The only thing that makes what I remember and what you remember is the emotion we attach to it that colours it.
What colour would make your emotional realities more comfortable?
* Disclaimer: results may vary from person to person