Well let’s start with what is hypnosis?
To be hypnotised is to be in a trance state. To be trapped in a behaviour or thought. Think about what your struggling with right now, a habit you want to kick, a fear or phobia that controls you – well that’s you in a trance,
My job as a” hypnotherapist” is to break you out of that trance state. Set you free from it.
But in order to do that we have to understand why you created the trance state in the first place. I believe all behaviour serves a purpose. Consider a fear of dogs, when you see a dog you get anxious – that is your body protecting you. That’s your amazing subconscious remembering an incident that created your phobia and doing its best to stop you being in any danger going forward, so it heightens your awareness of dogs and makes you anxious, creating a phobia.
So all though the phobia can be deliberating it’s actually designed to try and protect you.
So not only does all behaviour serve a purpose, it’s trying to serve a positive one!
To free you from that protective behaviour we have to understand where it came from and if it’s still a need in you to be so alert.
I do that by helping you revisit the initial event. Cliché as it may sound it’s often something from your child hood because that when we are learning how to stay safe in our world.
More often than not, the first event that created your habit or fear or phobia was created in a much younger less capable, less aware you than you are today.
An example – let’s use the dog phobia…
A lady in her 40’s came to me as she has had a phobia of dogs all her life and wants to marry the love of her life but guess what? Yep he comes with two dogs!
Well, we spent some time going back to her initial event that created her fear. Her memory was of being little and being mauled by a huge dog!
Scary – no wander she has a phobia!
Through NLP language techniques we were able to find the true event in her memory. I say true because every time we bring up a memory we change it without knowing it. You see you and but you cannot think like you did as a child because you know more, you are more worldly wise, you are bigger, stronger.
So every time you remember something you will be adding your current belief systems to that event.
When we cut through that and actually got this lovely lady to travel back down her life line to the event and watch as if watching a movie, what we say was a young girl in the park and an overzealous puppy bounding up to lick her but because she was small it toppled her over and she hurt her arm as she fell.
As an adult watching this she realised that the dog was not trying to maul her, in fact it did not really hurt her at all – it was just because she was so little.
The lovely lady realised instantly that that could not happen again – a puppy could not knock her over, the dog was only playing….
She is still mindful of big dogs but I am happy to report that she has let go of her phobia of all dogs and wedding bells are ringing again.
All behaviour serves a purpose and usually a protective one, but the key is that that behaviour was created in a time and place and circumstance that doesn’t exist now and cannot exist now.
* Disclaimer: results may vary from person to person