SNIPER MODE – a trance like state

 

I watch my cat when he has spotted a mouse.  He will sit there completely focussed on the hole the poor critter has taken refuge in for hours.   SNIPER MODE

Do we ever do that? Well for sure.  I have a snake phobia so if I’m near long grass I go into SNIPER MODE.  Not for a tasty meal like my cat but for self-preservation.  I will be sort of listening to you, sort of enjoying my picnic, but not really because I am in SNIPER MODE and completely focussing all my senses on that long grass for a movement, a sound.  Its like I am in a trance, in that I am pretty well unaware of anything else going on around me.

Now I could just move away from the long grass and then I would be able to release my senses from guard duty to really listen to the conversation and taste my food and feel the sun on my back and notice the beauty around me.  But what if you can’t move away from the perceived threat?

Fight or flight response.  Fight or run.  Great if you can but what if the perceived threat isn’t physical? What if it’s a thought or a prediction about an upcoming event?

This is how we get so run down, when we go into SNIPER MODE on a perceived or possible threat …

– a big bill coming in at the end of the month we don’t know how we are going to pay

– a meeting that’s looming that we are really concerned about

– a fear that our partner may be looking elsewhere

– anything emotional really

And the problem is you can’t move away from those threats or perceived threats because they are in your head and so follow you!  And you go in to SNIPER MODE totally unable to really notice anything going on around you but the perceived threat, moving through your days but not being in them, not enjoying or noticing any of the great things happening around you.

You are in SNIPER MODE.

And it’s exhausting to be so alert to danger, to be able to do nothing about it. And it wears you down and then you feel poorly and tired which makes the perceived threat even more of a problem.

Would you know if you had slipped into SNIPER MODE?

Whatever your fear or perceived threat is you have a couple of choices:  accept that from now till the great event you can stay in SNIPER MODE. Let whatever the perceived threat is take away your senses.  So very exhausting and it changes nothing but your health and ability to deal with the perceived threat if it ever turns out to be real.

Or you can smell the flowers, being in the moment and notice the good things and beauty around you.

Neither makes time pass any quicker but how would you rather spend your time?

If this is you, get in contact and let me help you choose how you want to feel, how you want to spend you time.

How to teach children empathy

Can you imagine a world where kids understand the words and meaning of self-worth, resilience, empathy…

I think that would heal our world, but to start to teach kids a word they maybe have to be able to pronounce it and you kind of need them to have an understanding of its true meaning. I am 50 years old and I had to look up the meaning of emotional resilience!

I write children’s books about a lad called Ollie.  Ollie has super powers.  These super powers are his emotions.  Through my training as a therapist I teach kids that they do have control of their superpowers and that only they can control them and choose what super power they want to utilise to get them through stuff. Through the Ollie stories we playfully and very simplistically introduce the concepts of resilience and empathy.  Only then do we use the big words.

I believe there are no bad kids.  I believe all behaviour serves a purpose, usually a positive or protective purpose.  And that our youngsters don’t always have the emotional understanding or language to explain where they are at sometimes and that all they can do is use the emotions we resort to in heightened emotional states, happy, angry sad etc.

Imagine a world where kids get empathy…. What would that world look like? Through the Ollie books I am doing all I can to try and ensure future generations will get to live in that world.

www.ollieandhissuperpowers.com

 

  *  Disclaimer : results may vary from person to person