If we waste time trying to change a behaviour without recognising that the behaviour is as a result of an emotional reaction to something, we will be wasting a lot of time!
Beneath every behaviour is an emotion that created it. Why? Well the behaviour is trying to voice the emotion or help it in some way. An example would be: ‘I feel sad, empty unloved’ The answer ..CAKE! Okay that is a bit of a sweeping example but its what we do when an emotion is unhappy, not at ease with itself. That’s why I love the word, DIS-EASE!
Getting to the Root
Traditional therapy spends a lot of time giving you strategies to change a behaviour. Sometimes that works but if you really want to deal with the issue stop pruning branches and go for the root!
I can’t change a past event or make your current situation better in any material way. I can’t find you a nicer husband, better job, well behaved kids, but I can help you deal with all of that by working with you to find the emotion behind all the things that are causing you DIS-EASE.
We create our realities, we choose how to think and feel, we are responsible for how we think and feel, and so if your struggling with something right now, you can spend a lot of time and money trying to change the behaviour the feeling of DIS-EASE has created. Or you can go to the root, find the underpinning emotion that created the feeling and ask it ‘Why?’ Help it, and if it feels listened too and understood it will quieten down.